First, Happy Mother’s Day to all the amazing moms and that includes fur mommas too! I, myself am not a mother yet but I am a fur mom. I know this is a hard day for some and that’s what this post is addressing. I want to remind all of you beautiful women reading this that you are important no matter what and your journey, whether that’s to be a mother or not, is also important.

I am thirty now and still not a mother and that’s okay. It took me a long time to be okay with that. It was one of my bigger struggles in my twenties. So many expectations and society play a role in what you think your life is supposed to be like and it sets us up to feel like we failed in some way. After a lot of reflection and realization on how life actually works it started to help ease that stress and depression of it not happening when I thought it would.

Everything happens for a reason. Things not going according to how I planned them saved me from having a child with the wrong person. I’m glad it didn’t end up being in the cards for me at that time but if you asked me how I felt about it 6ish years ago? I would’ve been in such a different headspace.

Not only just the factor of not having someone to have a child with but I also ran into some medical complications that could hinder that idea of having a child. This unfortunately is the case for most of us women who struggle or just aren’t able to have a baby. I’ve been working hard on hopefully correcting that so if it is an option for me in the future I won’t have the medical hurdle to worry about.

The reason for this post is to say if it hasn’t happened yet, take a breath and remind yourself you have time and it’s okay. We are all obsessed with this ticking time bomb but it doesn’t have to be like that. Also, if it doesn’t happen remember you have other options and everything will work out how it’s supposed to. It’s easier said than done to have this mindset, trust me I know. It took me a long time to speak these words and actually believe and trust in them but I do now.

Again, Happy Mother’s Day to all!